Valentine's Day Messages: How to Pen the Perfect Valentine's Day Card

Valentine's Day messages and cards are a really sweet way to show someone special in your life that you are thinking of them on Cupid's day of love. Though the day itself is synonymous with giving Valentine's Day gifts and going on romantic Valentine's Day dates, there's nothing like a thoughtful message to show someone you really care.

Valentine's Day card messages and wishing someone a happy Valentine's day will differ in both style and appearance depending on who you are writing the card for. Gone are the days where Messages for Valentine's day were sent to husbands and wives only. Nowadays, people write Valentine's day cards for fiancés, boyfriends, girlfriends, and even friends. Did someone say galentine's?

What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card: 85 Valentine's Day Messages

Now, for those looking for the best Valentine messages, you've certainly come to the right place. No matter who your Valentine's Day card is for, we have the perfect message for you. From funny Valentine's Day messages to romantic things to write in a Valentine's Day card, our list of examples and expert tips has you completely covered.

We even offer advice on whether or not you should message your ex on Valentine's Day - no taboo is too heavy for the experts here at Hitched. Get ready to start crafting the best Valentine's day message for the people you love most in the world. 

• What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card?
• What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card for a Boyfriend or Girlfriend? 
• What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card for a Fiancé? 
• What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card for a Husband or Wife?
• What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card for a Friend?
• Funny Valentine's Day Card Messages 
• Should I Message My Ex on Valentine's Day? 
• Who Wrote the Oldest Known Valentine's Day Message?

What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card?

What is a good Valentines Day message? From sweet and sentimental to simple and funny, how do you know what to write in a Valentine's Day card? As well as giving you examples of Valentine's Day card messages for every recipient, we also have bags of advice on what kind of message to write. 

The key is to know your audience and consider the kind of relationship you have with the person you're writing to.

If you're writing a Valentine's Day card for a friend or new girlfriend or boyfriend, you won't be reciting seriously romantic poetry quotes or declaring your undying love for the card's recipient. Likewise, if you're wondering what to write in a Valentine's Day card for a husband, wife or fiancé, your message is likely to be more romantic and heartfelt. 

It's also important to match the style of message to the type of relationship you have. If, even as you celebrate big milestone wedding anniversaries, you and your partner are a pair of jokers who don't buy into romance much, you'll want to write a funny Valentine's Day message that matches your relationship.

If you know your partner's love language is words of affirmation and sentimental validation, you'll need to dig a little deeper and come up with something more than a "Happy Valentine's Day Babe!" to avoid missing the mark. 

To ensure you nail your Valentine's Day card message, we have a number of examples as well as top tips to help you out. Happy writing!

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What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card for a Boyfriend or Girlfriend?

Having a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend can span from couples who are very new and fresh, to couples who have been together for decades and are totally content with their non-married status. When writing a Valentine's Day message for your girlfriend or boyfriend, base the intensity if your message on the length of your relationship and think about how you communicate normally. 

If you're all about long, sentimental paragraphs with plenty of kisses, stick to that theme in the card. If you're in a new relationship and aren't sure what to write, or perhaps you're wondering what to write in your first Valentine's Day card, keep it simple and sweet - you can't go wrong with a cute message that's to the point.

• I'm so glad we made things official!
• Happy Valentine's Day to my favourite person in the world.
• I couldn't be happier that you're my Valentine.
• Happy Valentine's Day from your not-so-secret admirer.
• Thank you for being the world's best boyfriend/girlfriend.
• I love doing life with you!
• I'm so glad I met you. 
• Every day is an adventure when I'm with you.
• Thank you for the best year of my life.
• Happy Valentine's Day to the best Insta-boyfriend/Insta-girlfriend ever.
• I feel so lucky to call you mine.
• You have no idea how special you are.
• Being with you is my biggest achievement yet.
• Every day I pinch myself at how lucky I am to have you in my life. 
• Happy Valentine's Day from your biggest fan.
• You make me so happy.
• Every day, I get butterflies just thinking about you.
• I'm so happy to have a boyfriend/girlfriend as gorgeous as you.
• Happy Valentine's Day! I will forever be punching above my weight.
• Happy Valentine's Day to my favourite person.

Writing Tip for Valentine's Day Messages to a Boyfriend or Girlfriend

Before you start writing, consider whether or not you are in the 'I love you' stage or not. If you haven't said it yet, think about if you want to choose this moment to say it for the first time, or whether you'd prefer to say it in person. It's also worth considering this when you're buying the card. A lot of Valentine's Day cards have that four-letter word on the front or hidden inside so check before you buy!

READ MORE: Valentine's Day Date Ideas That Won't Break the Bank

What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card for a Fiancé?

Writing a Valentine's Day message to your fiancé is going to feel very different to writing one to your girlfriend or boyfriend. You're getting married! This tiny little detail is likely to make Valentine's day extra special, especially if it's your first engaged Valentine's Day. 

• Every day is Valentine's Day when you're marrying your best friend.
• This time next year we're totally going to be married.
• You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because the reality is finally better than your dreams.
• I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you.
• All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt. (Note - this is best when it accompanies a Valentine's chocolate gift!)
• Here's to forever.
• Forget Valentine's Day - I love you every day. That's why I'm marrying you!
• Next Valentine's Day you'll be my husband/wife!
• Can you believe we'll be married this time next year, because I can't!?
• I can't wait to buy a "to my husband/wife" card next year.
• Happy Valentine's Day to Thank for marrying me; you make me so happy.
• I can't believe I found the man/woman/person of my dreams.
• This is the best Valentine's Day ever because it's the last one before we're married.
• Happy Valentine's Day to my fellow nearly-wed.
• I can't wait to spend Valentine's Day with my boyf- oh wait, fiancé!/ girlf- oh wait, fiancée!
• For our next romantic date, why don't we meet at [wedding venue] on, say, [wedding date]?

Writing Tip for Valentine's Day Messages to a Fiancé

To make your Valentine's Day message to your fiancé extra sweet, make a reference to the wedding. If it's going to be the last Valentine's Day before you get married, say how much you're looking forward to writing next year's card to your new husband or wife. Even a simple "I can't wait to marry you!" can really amp up the romance in a Valentine's Day card. 

READ MORE: The Best Valentine's Day Cards for Your Fiancé

What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card for a Husband or Wife?

Writing a Valentine's Day message to your wife or husband is your chance to remind them just how much they are loved. Whether it's your first married Valentine's Day or you've recently celebrated a big anniversary, there's always potential for you to pleasantly surprise your partner with a super sweet and potentially unexpected Valentine's message.

• I love you, my forever Valentine.
• I couldn't ask for a more incredible wife/husband.
• In our marriage, I've fallen in love many times, but always with the same person.
• I choose you today, on Valentine's Day, and every day after that, too.
• Every day I count my lucky stars that I got to marry you.
• Happy first married Valentine's Day!
• This is our XXth Valentine's Day together and I wouldn't change a thing!
• Even after XX years, you still give me butterflies every time I look at you.
• You mean everything to me, there's no person I'd rather spend all my Valentine's with than you.
• You're my world.
• You're my favourite human, now and forever.
• Each and every day I think to myself, I'm so glad I married you.
• Even after all this time, you're the first thing I think of when I wake up and the last when I fall asleep at night.
• I thought our wedding day was the happiest day of my life. But it's been XX days since we got married, and I'm even happier I was then - because of you.
• I don't just love you on Valentine's Day, I love you every day. 

Writing Tip for Valentine's Day Messages to a Husband or Wife

We always say no one knows your husband or wife better than you, so you will know exactly the kind of message they will appreciate in a Valentine's Day card - however - don't be afraid to change things up. Just because you both write a super simple Valentine's Day message to each other every year, doesn't mean you do something new.

If you've had a particularly amazing year, or perhaps one that's had it's struggles, why not use your Valentine's Day message as a way to address that and thank your partner for everything they do for you. Unexpected messages can often be the sweetest of them all. 

READ MORE: Super Unique Valentine's Day Gifts for Him

What to Write in a Valentine's Day Card for a Friend?

From Galentine's Day with your best girlfriends, to Palentine's with your nearest and dearest, sometimes it's your friends who are the true loves of your life, and what better time to show them you really appreciate their friendship than writing a heartfelt Valentine's Day message?

• I am so lucky to have you in my life. Thank you for being you.
• I just want to remind you that you are enough and you have nothing to prove to anyone.
• Don't live to please others, live to please yourself. Keep being you!
• As Oscar Wilde once said, "To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance." Keep doing you boo!
• There's no one I'd rather spend Valentine's Day with than you, my forever bestie.
• Being yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. I'm so proud of you.
• In the words of Oprah Winfrey, "Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down." Here's to always getting the bus...
• You're not just a friend, you're family. Love you always!
• I'm forever grateful to have you in my life.
• What would I do without you ay?
• Through thick and thin and highs and lows, you've always been there for me and that's something I'll never forget.
• I may have been married for XX years but you were always the first love of my life. 
• You are my person. Period.
• Thank you for always letting me be myself, even when that self was a little crazy.
• To the good times, the crazy times, the sad times and the fun times.

Writing Tip for Valentine's Day Messages to a Friend

People often find writing Valentine's Day messages to friends tricky, especially if it's the first time you've done something like this. Our advice is to reference a memory or a reason why you're writing the card. Everyone will have different reasons for sending a Valentine's Day card to a friend.

Some will do this every year, which will make writing the message much easier. Some will be sending one to a newly-single friend, or sending one to thank a pal for really coming through for them this year. Whatever the reason, write from the heart. You can keep it light-hearted and funny, or you can make it deep and meaningful - the choice is totally up to you.

Funny Valentine's Day Card Messages

Whether you're writing a Valentine's Day card message to a girlfriend or boyfriend, or penning one to a husband or friend, humour is something that will always bring people joy. When it comes to writing a funny Valentine's Day message, we've got you covered with plenty of ideas and suggestions.

• There's no one I'd rather send TikToks to than you, babe.
• So... The person I'd like to couple up with is... [insert someone else's name]
• Happy Valentine's Day! I hope you enjoy the sexy, romantic, bought-at-the-last-minute-in-sheer-blinding-panic gift I got you.
• You're 100% my type on paper.
• To my Valentine. There's no one I'd rather lie next to in bed whilst scrolling through Instagram than you!
• Happy Valentine's Day! Because nothing says romance like a folded piece of card.
• Being with you, every day is like Valentine's Day. Apart from the presents. And the card. And the flowers. And the chocolates. So, nothing like Valentine's Day, actually.
• Can't wait to Netflix and chill with you later (aka fall asleep two minutes into the film we choose...)
• Do you remember that incredible Valentine's gift you got me one year? No. Me neither.
• Sorry for making you binge-watch [insert TV show your partner hated]. Thank you for still loving me. Ready for season 2?
• Thanks for being my partner in crime. Now let's take these face masks and go rob a bank.
• There's no one I'd rather make bad decisions with than you.
• Valentine's Day to-do list: you.
• If there were a zombie apocalypse, I'd kill you last.
• Happy Valentine's Day. I guess you'll do. 
• Happy Valentine's Day to the funniest person I know...apart from me, of course.
• I love you more than carbs. Apart from maybe pizza.
• You're just like a Deliveroo driver: you bring me joy.
• You have my heart. Any chance I can get it back for a bit? I kind of need it for the whole blood-circulation thing.

Writing Tip for Funny Valentine's Day Messages

If you don't want to opt for a generic funny Valentine's Day message, but aren't sure where to start, we'd always suggest referring to a funny memory you have with the person you're writing to, or using a private joke that's just between the two of you. 

Making a reference to something that the person will instantly recognise and laugh about is a great way to inject humour into your funny Valentine's message whilst still ensuring it is personal and has plenty of thought behind it. 

Should I Message My Ex on Valentine's Day?

Whilst there's no simple answer to this question, we'd often sway towards no on this one - however there are some exceptions where it may be necessary or appropriate to message your ex on Valentine's Day. Let's go through it...

The first step is to think about why you want to message your ex on Valentine's Day. Do you want to get back together with them? Are you missing them and regretting ending the relationship? Are you hoping that you can reconcile your relationship or try and be friends?

If you genuinely want a relationship with them moving forward, Valentine's Day could be a good time to reach out, however, they may question why you've waited for a particular date to get in touch, and wonder whether it's just because Valentine's Day has left you feeling a little lonely. 

Another reason you may want or need to message an ex-partner on Valentine's Day is if you share children. Often, couples who have separated but share custody of children will exchange messages with each other on Valentine's Day on behalf of the children. This could be done in the form of sending cards made or signed by the children, a video message or even gifts from you and the kids. 

Whatever your situation, it's really important to consider other people who may be impacted by your decision to contact an ex-partner on Valentine's Day. Are there current partners (yours or theirs) who may be upset by your choice to message? Could your ex-partner be impacted negatively by the message? Perhaps a friendly message to them could give false hope of a second chance you're not willing to give.

The decision to message an ex on Valentine's Day is ultimately down to you. But our advice? Consider what your intent is, as well as all of the factors, think about any potential consequences a message could have and ensure it's not a decision made on a whim. Once you click send, or you post that card, there's no going back. 

Who Wrote the Oldest Known Valentine's Message?

From writing to your ex, to sending love letters from prison - hear us out on this one. History-lovers will be interested to know that the oldest known Valentine's Day message was actually sent from behind bars. The first ever Valentine's Day message was written by Charles, the Duke of Orleans in 1415.

Charles' first marriage took place when he was just 12 after he was ordered to marry his then 17-year-old cousin and daughter of King Charles VI, Isabella of Valous, who was already a widow having been married for the first time aged just six. 

After Isabella died in 1409, Charles married for the second time, this time to an 11-year-old named Bonne of Armagnac. In 1415, during the French civil war, Charles was imprisoned by the Burgundians. It was behind bars in the Tower of London where he penned the first ever Valentine's message to his wife, though the tone was more sombre than today's style of message. He wrote: 

"My very gentle Valentine,

Since for me you were born too soon,

And I for you was born too late.

God forgives him who has estranged

Me from you for the whole year.

I am already sick of love,

My very gentle Valentine."

Unlike the Duke of Orleans work, ensure your Valentine's Day message is packed full of romance by using some of the world's most romantic quotes in your card.