Bride-to-Be Goes Viral After Sharing 'Stag Do Rules' for Her Fiancé
The video has gone viral with more than 1.4m views and almost 3,000 comments from other users sharing what rules they have set their partners
When we saw TikTok user Isabellab212 sharing what “rules” she had given her fiancé ahead of his stag do, we turned to our Instagram community to find out whether or not this is a common thing, and were shocked by the findings.
Almost a fifth of those surveyed* (18%) said they were thinking of setting some rules, while another 14% said they absolutely gave their partners some guidelines for their parties. When it comes to the rules being set, brides-to-be share some of the boundaries they are implementing, revealing a worrying trend.
One user replied “Nothing above the neck” while another agreed saying “his face was a no-go zone for the stags!” while yet another added “I warned the friends not to do anything stupid like shave off his eyebrows!”
We recently spoke to Isabella about her video which has since racked up 1.4million views and almost 3,000 comments from users sharing similar feelings about their partner’s pre-wedding party, and she revealed that A Lot of Men were getting quite angry with her about banning strippers.
“I think it’s interesting as my fiancé has said he has no interest in that, and definitely wouldn’t do it because of how it would make me feel. But every relationship is different - some couples might have no issues with it. But I think it’s important to express your boundaries and what you are and are not comfortable with with your partner, so that there’s no misunderstandings.”
“These ‘rules’ as I called them on TikTok are things we have discussed when planning our stag and hen dos”, says Isabella. “Not all of these are my actual views, and the word ‘rules’ was meant to be a joke (he’s not a child!) I would say they’re more like the boundaries of things I'm uncomfortable with him doing.
“The actual thing I have said to my fiancé is ‘no strippers’, as for me, this is disrespectful and I think a LOT of women agreed in the comments [of the video]. The other big thing is communication. Me and my fiancé live together and talk everyday, so it would be unnatural not to talk even if we are away from each other. And mainly because we just want to make sure each other is safe and having a good time!
“My fiancé knew about the TikTok before it was posted, as we both thought it was quite obviously a joke…. So we just laugh together at the comments now. The gift thing also was meant to be funny, but I wouldn’t mind!”
Isabella says her fiancé “completely agrees and respects these things”, which she puts down to why they work so well as a couple, though she does think that if it were reversed then he too might have some rules of his own to implement.
“The communication ‘rule’ works both ways. He would want to know I’m safe also. The strippers one, he doesn’t need to worry about because he knows the thought of it makes me uncomfortable. So you won’t find me at Magic Mike!”
Isabella tells Hitched that she wasn’t expecting the video to blow up in the way that it did, saying that “I normally make silly TikToks for my friends to see, so I was shocked! I do think that it has unveiled a huge topic of conversation, and girls have been saying they are arguing with their fiancés about the same things! One even said they broke up with their partner after discussing strippers!”
Since her video blew up, Isabella has also shared more “rules” for her wedding guests ahead of her 2026 wedding in Las Vegas.
“I think people need to realise that social media isn’t real, so don’t take everything as face value. My real ‘rules’ for my wedding guests are to make sure you are having a good time! We’re going to Vegas so I want to make sure everyone is enjoying themselves at all times (but please don’t arrive at the ceremony drunk).
“One part of TikTok is ‘Fiancé don’t be late’ - This IS a rule. He is always late, his family and friends will testify - so I need him to keep an eye on the clock!”
Zoe Burke, leading wedding expert and editor of Hitched.co.uk says: “When you’re planning a wedding and a life together, it can feel a bit nerve-wracking to know your partner is having a celebration you’re not part of, and usually know nothing about!
“Hen and stag dos have come a long way in recent years - now it’s more a chance for friends to celebrate the fact one of the group has an upcoming wedding and to make them feel special, rather than trying to embarrass them.
“It is really important to discuss your boundaries with your partner (and the friends planning the pre-wedding celebration!) to make sure you are both comfortable with each other’s view. There should be no reason why you can’t discuss this and respect each other’s point of view ahead of your hen and/or stag celebrations.”
*Poll of 100 Instagram users accurate as of 13/02/2024
